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IS IT BETTER TO BE

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Is it better to be

A HOMEMAKER

OR

A WORKING WOMAN

OR

BOTH

IS IT BETTER TO BE :-

Working Woman or Housewife

A HOMEMAKER

A WORKING WOMAN

OR

BOTH

I, myself fall in the BOTH CATEGORY

Better Choice

I have worn both the caps – the cap of the Homemaker along with the cap of the Working Woman

BELIEVE ME

You can and You Will

It is not an easy task donning both the caps at one and the same time

I am sure that I am echoing the thoughts of lakhs of women out there, if not more

IS IT BETTER TO QUIT OR NOT TO QUIT

Is it better to be

One  of my seniors one day told me not to quit my job after I got married.

This piece of advice was given to me just when I was at the threshold of entering into my married life

My reaction to this was; Why?

His answer to me was; What a waste of your educational qualifications, if so

So, the question arose : Would it be better to quit my job after marriage or would it be better to continue working after marriage.

IS IT BETTER TO BE A HOMEMAKER:-

Homemaker helix

In almost all households, the responsibility for both home and children falls on the shoulders of a woman, the traditional outlook being that the man , the breadwinner has to earn the income while the woman has to cook, clean, bear children and look after her family.

Thus, in earlier times, women gave up working after marriage.

The main  reason for this is that  permission was not granted by mainly their  in laws to work after marriage and in a few cases, sometimes, even their own husband refused them permission to become a WORKING WOMAN.

For example, in older times, even a  woman doctor was not allowed to continue her profession because she was told who would manage her domestic roles, if she stuck to her medical profession .

So, the focus for many women became their home life after marriage even if they were highly educated.

Also, the need for finance not being required, many women just gave in and accepted their roles as HOMEMAKERS

But, that was then

Many Years Back, it was better to be a Home Maker

CERTAIN CATEGORIES OF WOMEN FEEL IT IS BETTER TO BE A HOME MAKER ONLY

Society has done being reverse

Being a housewife is a full time job. No fixed working hours, no weekends of, no annual leave, no sick leave, no bonuses and appraisal.

No Belittling the role of being a homemaker only.

Many women are very happy and satisfied at being stay at home mothers and wanting to give their best to their children and in laws.

At the same time, Many women are lucky and fortunate to have sufficient financial means  provided by their spouses due to which they are able to provide for the means of their family very adequately

So, a Certain category of women feel that it is better to be a Home Maker only.

But, not always

WHY IS IT BETTER TO BE A HOMEMAKER ONLY?

The Ultimate homemaker

Financially, many women find it is tough to manage only on a single income provided for by their husbands

Many women tell themselves that they will manage and adjust with whatever they have and will only make choices within their means of income.

TODAY’S CURRENT SCENARIO

FINANCIAL IMPLICATIONS

Homemaker Expenses

Today, if a woman chooses not to work after marriage, the financial implications can multiply manifold

In comparison, Two Incomes mean a better life style, affording many things which were earlier out of reach, a security cover for old age etc

Today‘s woman feels that her children need financial security and that the world is moving towards DUAL INCOME HOUSEHOLDS

Many women try to solve this conflict in their minds – how will I be able to adjust and tackle both roles simultaneously.

SO, IS IT BETTER TO BELONG TO THE BOTH CATEGORY:

YOU CAN AND YOU WILL

You can and You Will

No matter what your current situation might be – maybe you are struggling to make ends meet or perhaps you are comfortable in your current situation but want to grow to the next level, you want to work and find a job so you can unlock prosperity for yourself and family  which could probably be in the form of a dream vacation, educational goals for your children which could increase their opportunities for better paying jobs, fulfilment and peace of mind that you are personally seeking etc.

Sometimes, a woman finds it is awkward to keep asking her spouse for pin money which she wants to spend probably on her beauty salon expenses, buying new clothes, shoes, handbags etc.

This is the time that her own money earned from her job or business comes in handy.

She is mentally satisfied that she can afford these little treats to spend money on herself, her friends etc without accounting for the money spent to anybody

This is what makes a woman independent and gives her the mental satisfaction and peace of mind.

Everyone says that being a house wife is a full time job. So if you work  also simultaneously, you will have to manage one shift after another

From a woman’s point of view, it will be a very big balance between her dual responsibilities of her household, taking care of her children and family and also her responsibilities towards her professional job or managing her own business

IS IT BETTER TO FIND A SOLUTION

Find a Solution

Many a times, circumstances do not allow us the privilege to make a choice. One just jumps into deep waters and then realises that one either swims or will sink.

Today’s woman has found solutions in the form of Children’s creches, maids to take care of their children and if they are lucky and fortunate, there are their own parents or in laws at home very capable and able to take care of their child or children whatever the case may be.

A maid helps not only helps their senior in laws at home, and cooks and  cleans and dusts their houses for them whilst they are away at work, or in some cases there is also an option for readymade food tiffins which can be ordered from outside enabling them to come to a clean house with their domestic home responsibilities taken care of.

Definitely, there will be many adjustments, struggle and compromises along the way.

Working gives one a sense of purpose and fulfilment that staying at home does not.

Everything that you dreamed and imagined about could finally be yours if you decided that it is better to be A BOTH CATEGORY WOMAN of being a HOME MAKER as well as being a WORKING WOMAN

IS IT BETTER TO BE A WORKING MOM FROM A CHILD’S POINT OF VIEW

Working Mom is a superwoman

From a child’s point of view, a home maker mother is the best choice from a psychological point of view.

During their growing up years, if children have their mothers taking care of all their needs, they feel that they will grow up to be happy, healthy and well adjusted developed adults .

DECISION MAKING TIME

Time to Decide

The final decision rests on your shoulders only

Please do consult your spouse before making any major decisions

You will definitely need your husband’s support and co-operation to move ahead in life

What is the best role for you? Both or either role of Homemaker or Working Woman

If there is no choice, just enjoy whatever you do and go along with the flow

Better times definitely await you

If you have dreams of a better income, a better house, a better job, more money to nourish your family with, more money to invest in your own growth and potential, a comfortable nest egg for your old age security, please don’t’ feel guilty about it.

Definitely, challenges will have to be met, there will definitely be highs and lows but, Let me tell you that life is not a bed of roses.

However beautiful the rose, it still has thorns

Women have always donned multi tasking roles and have efficiently and capably done justice to whatever roles they have adopted,  always giving her best at all times.

A greater level of joy, success and time and money freedom awaits you

Many people will comment that you have made a wrong decision.

But, do not listen to anybody

Nobody comes and lives your life for you

If, you feel that you can handle BOTH THE CAPS OF THE WORKING WOMAN AND THE HOMEMAKER, JUST GO AHEAD AND DO IT.

HAVE PATIENCE

Good Things take time

Working Women today are now the accepted norm in today’s modern society

Given that the situation differs from person to person, different people will have different opinions

We all have to map our own personal circumstances and situations accordingly.

Right now all of us are bang in the middle of COVID 19.

Hence we have to weigh the pros and cons carefully

Think twice before you take a decision to belong to the BOTH CATEGORY Of whether you want to be a HOMEMAKER ALONG WITH BEING A WORKING WOMAN

Maybe, it would be better to wait for the COVID 19 VACCINE to make its long awaited and welcome entry before you decide anything, which could take the next six months, if we are lucky or even more

THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE MAKING ANY DECISIONS WHETHER IT IS BETTER TO BE A HOMEMAKER OR A WORKING WOMAN OR BOTH


BEST OF LUCK

Best of Luck

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Oh Powerful Deity, Every time it has to be me?(0_0)

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Every Time it has to be me?

EVERY TIME IT HAS TO BE ME?

Failure in an exam

A broken Romance/Marriage

Failure in your Job or  Loss in Business

Loss of a loved One  (Death is not the greatest loss in life,the greatest loss is what dies within us while we live )

If, any of the above happens to us, then the thought creeps in WHY ME? EVERY TIME?

LIFE IS A ROLLER COASTER

Life is a Roller Coaster

Do you know that life is like a rollercoaster, sometimes up and sometimes down, the good phases of life and the bad phases of life

Funnily enough, when we are in a good and fantastic phase of our life,

we never think;  WHY ME?

On the other hand,when we are in a down phase of our life and struggling and striving to achieve our goals and practically nothing seems to be going right, when you have probably been stabbed in the back by those near and dear ones around you, have been lied to by those people whom you love, then you  get upset and think; WHY ME?

A DIFFERENT PERSPECTIVE

A Different Perspective

In comparison, If we look around, we find that that there are also those people  whose lot seems to be very little in life.

What we seem to forget is that we all have problems.

Things happen in life which are just beyond  our control

On the other hand there are those people  who although, they have problems, appear not to have any problems because of an outer façade they put on, making it appear that they are fortunate and lucky and do not have any problems.

It is just the way that they tackle their problems that  makes them a class apart from the others.

We all have problems each and every time. 

We all make mistakes, struggle and sometimes, we  even regret whatever happened in the past

DO NOT RUN AWAY EVERY TIME

Never Run Away

Never try to run away from your problems, learn to tackle them head on

You have the power and the capability not only to shape your today, but, in doing so, also your forthcoming future

TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY

Tomorrow is Another Day

Making mistakes is a part of our lives.

We have to forget the mistakes made by us, remember the lessons learned from those mistakes and move on in life.

Each and every struggle in your life shapes you into the person you are today.

When you learn from your bad experiences and  you do not commit the same errors again  in the future, a newer and a stronger YOU emerges making you more tough to meet future challenges in life

TOMORROW IS ANOTHER DAY. THERE ARE PLENTY MORE OPPORTUNITIES OUT THERE TOMORROW AND THEREAFTER TO MAKE IT GOOD AND BETTER IN LIFE

Actually, Life has very simple solutions. We  have to go seeking for those solutions to our problems

ONLY I CAN CHANGE MY LIFE,

NOBODY ELSE CAN DO IT FOR ME

LIFE’S BEST LESSON

Lifes best lesson
Lifes best lesson

What’s done is done. What’s gone is gone.

One has to let go and move on

Don’t ruin a good Today by thinking about the past constantly. LET IT GO

Never let the past stop you from moving forward

Learn to be your best friend

There will be days when no one will be there for you but you yourself

LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST

Last but not the least

 DON’T BE AFRAID TO FAIL, BE AFRAID NOT TO TRY.

The potential within us is greater than the obstacles around us.

It is often said that obstacles are nothing but a stepping stone to success

If we want to be happy, we have to learn from all our situations and experiences in life.

The greatest glory in living lies in not failing, but in rising every time we fall

In conclusion,

Life is a One Time Offer

Life is a one time offer, use it well

Good luck.

Triumph Over Your Enormous Fears,Phobias – Nothing is 2 Impossible

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Enormous Fears

DO YOU HAVE ENORMOUS FEARS,PHOBIAS AND INSECURITIES?

Remember, when we were toddlers?

Oh, that was such a long time ago

Yes, indeed it was a long, long time ago

How did we learn to walk? win over that fears?

Your parents have constantly told you that you learnt to walk by holding their hands.

We fell down umpteen number of times, but did we give up?

No.

Why?

Because we were not aware of any inner demons lurking within us

Neither were we scared of any failures

We fell down numerous times, but at long last, eventually we learnt to walk

First by taking the support of either our mom or Dad and later independently all by ourselves.

Finally, we won

No Insecurities, No Fears, No Inner Demons lurking within us

Then, we were toddlers

Now, we are grown adults

So, the key here is Try, Try and keep on trying till you conquer, and eureka, you Succeed.

Many of us are scared(have the fears) of even trying.

We are scared of any change & anything new happening in our lives.

We are scared to walk down unknown paths.

 Due to lack of confidence, we give up.

Basically, we are scared of failure.

Of our near and dear ones telling us, I told you not to go ahead with that idea

But,when you win, let’s be honest, the same people will come back and tell you, I told you, all that you  had to do  was try, and see, you won.

The honest truth is your confidence in yourself won the day.

Practice makes perfect of your fears?

Practice makes you perfect

When we first made chapatis for the first time, the shape was never round and perfect for our moms.

But, we were told, practice makes perfect.

Not to give up

And, Lo and Behold, after constant practice, we now make perfect chapatis or Indian rotis

And, we can now pass on the art of making rotis and chapatis to our children, and they, in their turn, will pass on the same art to their children and so on and so forth.

Is education only obtained from what we learn in schools and colleges?

Education

Education is an on evergoing process

Learning is not only from books, educating ourselves will continue to happen till we are old and we are willing to learn

Our parents did not know how to handle mobiles because they were used to making phone calls  via that old instrument, yes, that telephone instrument invented by the Great  Mr.Alexander Graham Bell.

the Vintage telephone

Maybe, our parents were slow learners, in comparison to the young generation of today whose grasping skills are very fast, but eventually our parents and their generation did eventually catch up.

Do you know many of the comedy reality shows that we watch on television today get their ideas from observing real life experiences and which are later converted and presented into comedy for the audience to watch

So, that’s it

Learning is from the world around us

Learning is from being good observers

Learning is from our own life experiences 

But, if, we close our minds, learning will never, never happen

Only, If we keep our minds open to learning and the will to learn, will learning happen

Adapting your mind to new ideas and thoughts has to be present in all of us

Else, we continue in life with the same age old patterns and routines.

Keep your mind open

Earlier travel from one place to another was via bullock carts and horse carriages and prior to that walking from one place to another was the only mode of travel

What happened?

Aeons of Aeons of time was spent in commuting from one place to another

Then came the vehicular movement of cars, buses, etc

Railways happened

Planes Happened

Ships happened

And, Today Space Travel is also happening

Can you even imagine, travelling via a horse carriage or a bullock cart?

Oh my God, are you crazy even to think of such an idea.

That is the general reaction.

Agreed, we cannot go back to the old modes of travel but we can keep our minds open for future modes of travel because more change is around the corner

Soon, Artificial Intelligence is going to rule us

All those mobile assistants we see in our mobile phones are nothing but due to artificial intelligence.

Cars without drivers.

Are you Scared? Do you have a fears?

But this is soon going to happen in the near future

So Gear yourselves for the new changes edging in, smile and accept and adapt yourselves to the new changes.

The Enormous thoughts of Daily Life – Change is Inevitable(000)

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thoughts of daily life

The Thoughts of Daily Life

Ever wondered about the basic thoughts of daily life?

All of us are struggling for food,clothing and shelter in our daily life

These are everybody’s basic needs in life.

When we enter this world, our basics are provided to us by our parents as we make our entry empty handed into this glorious,huge,wide world.

All our needs  of food,clothing and shelter are given to us by our parents,but,in other cases, we are not fortunate enough, sometimes, by foster parents,orphanage homes etc.

During our childhood days,we do not think about arming ourselves with skills and knowledge to face the world which we will ,when we become adults and have to manage in life by ourselves.

When we are young and during our childhood days,we only think about enjoying life by playing games,reading and  pursuing other hobbies

During our growing up years ,if we are fortunate to be born into a decent and good family,our parents send us to school to educate us.

Later,if we show a keen interest in our academics ,either our parents send us to college for a graduate degree or we work and make money by ourselves in order to make our way in this world armed with our graduate degrees.

So, the big question here is the huge competition we face in the mad rush to make money in order to move ourselves up the social ladder?

Are we equipped with the right combination of skills and knowledge in order to achieve whatever targets we have set ourselves out to achieve.

The key skill required here is Discipline in our daily habits.

Are we reading the newspapers daily,finding out facts about the celebrities and companies who have made  huge successes in today’s day and age in order to imbibe and glean how our role models in life have achieved their targets.

Remember, if we are not ready to brush up our skills in whatever fields or areas we are interested in,we shall find ourselves in a big rut /standstill in life.

Change is inevitable and we have to keep up with the pace of the changing world.

How do we do that?

By constantly brushing up our skills in all areas of life,wherever required.

Today’s world is digitalised and if we do not learn how to adapt ourselves in this digital world,we will get left behind in the race .

They say follow the leader

Tell me, does the shoe fit

Whatever ideas you are trying to follow by reading up about your role models or celebrities etc, are they  apt and suitable to follow in your daily and personal life.

Once again,does the shoe fit if applied in your life.

All of us chase dreams ,but,very few ,emerge successful.

Why?

Are we determined,persevering enough to chase our dreams all the way.

Not everybody has the ability to do so.

But,never say never should be the motto

Don’t give up,come what way,and success is sure to be yours.

Read motivational books,watch you tube videos about motivation,watch ted Talks about motivation.

We sure are lucky today to live in today’s technological world where with the click of the mouse,the big gigantic world of the internet is at our feet.

Type a few key words in the google search bar and we have a variety of choices cropping up.

Pick  and choose  from the variety and apply it in our lives .

If that does not work,go back to the variety and pick another choice in whatever area of field you are researching.