A WORKING WOMAN
IS IT BETTER TO BE :-
A WORKING WOMAN
I, myself fall in the BOTH CATEGORY
I have worn both the caps – the cap of the Homemaker along with the cap of the Working Woman
It is not an easy task donning both the caps at one and the same time
I am sure that I am echoing the thoughts of lakhs of women out there, if not more
One of my seniors one day told me not to quit my job after I got married.
This piece of advice was given to me just when I was at the threshold of entering into my married life
My reaction to this was; Why?
His answer to me was; What a waste of your educational qualifications, if so
So, the question arose : Would it be better to quit my job after marriage or would it be better to continue working after marriage.
IS IT BETTER TO BE A HOMEMAKER:-
In almost all households, the responsibility for both home and children falls on the shoulders of a woman, the traditional outlook being that the man , the breadwinner has to earn the income while the woman has to cook, clean, bear children and look after her family.
Thus, in earlier times, women gave up working after marriage.
The main reason for this is that permission was not granted by mainly their in laws to work after marriage and in a few cases, sometimes, even their own husband refused them permission to become a WORKING WOMAN.
For example, in older times, even a woman doctor was not allowed to continue her profession because she was told who would manage her domestic roles, if she stuck to her medical profession .
So, the focus for many women became their home life after marriage even if they were highly educated.
Also, the need for finance not being required, many women just gave in and accepted their roles as HOMEMAKERS
But, that was then
Many Years Back, it was better to be a Home Maker
CERTAIN CATEGORIES OF WOMEN FEEL IT IS BETTER TO BE A HOME MAKER ONLY
Being a housewife is a full time job. No fixed working hours, no weekends of, no annual leave, no sick leave, no bonuses and appraisal.
No Belittling the role of being a homemaker only.
Many women are very happy and satisfied at being stay at home mothers and wanting to give their best to their children and in laws.
At the same time, Many women are lucky and fortunate to have sufficient financial means provided by their spouses due to which they are able to provide for the means of their family very adequately
So, a Certain category of women feel that it is better to be a Home Maker only.
But, not always
WHY IS IT BETTER TO BE A HOMEMAKER ONLY?
Financially, many women find it is tough to manage only on a single income provided for by their husbands
Many women tell themselves that they will manage and adjust with whatever they have and will only make choices within their means of income.
TODAY’S CURRENT SCENARIO
Today, if a woman chooses not to work after marriage, the financial implications can multiply manifold
In comparison, Two Incomes mean a better life style, affording many things which were earlier out of reach, a security cover for old age etc
Today‘s woman feels that her children need financial security and that the world is moving towards DUAL INCOME HOUSEHOLDS
Many women try to solve this conflict in their minds – how will I be able to adjust and tackle both roles simultaneously.
SO, IS IT BETTER TO BELONG TO THE BOTH CATEGORY:
YOU CAN AND YOU WILL
No matter what your current situation might be – maybe you are struggling to make ends meet or perhaps you are comfortable in your current situation but want to grow to the next level, you want to work and find a job so you can unlock prosperity for yourself and family which could probably be in the form of a dream vacation, educational goals for your children which could increase their opportunities for better paying jobs, fulfilment and peace of mind that you are personally seeking etc.
Sometimes, a woman finds it is awkward to keep asking her spouse for pin money which she wants to spend probably on her beauty salon expenses, buying new clothes, shoes, handbags etc.
This is the time that her own money earned from her job or business comes in handy.
She is mentally satisfied that she can afford these little treats to spend money on herself, her friends etc without accounting for the money spent to anybody
This is what makes a woman independent and gives her the mental satisfaction and peace of mind.
Everyone says that being a house wife is a full time job. So if you work also simultaneously, you will have to manage one shift after another
From a woman’s point of view, it will be a very big balance between her dual responsibilities of her household, taking care of her children and family and also her responsibilities towards her professional job or managing her own business
Many a times, circumstances do not allow us the privilege to make a choice. One just jumps into deep waters and then realises that one either swims or will sink.
Today’s woman has found solutions in the form of Children’s creches, maids to take care of their children and if they are lucky and fortunate, there are their own parents or in laws at home very capable and able to take care of their child or children whatever the case may be.
A maid helps not only helps their senior in laws at home, and cooks and cleans and dusts their houses for them whilst they are away at work, or in some cases there is also an option for readymade food tiffins which can be ordered from outside enabling them to come to a clean house with their domestic home responsibilities taken care of.
Definitely, there will be many adjustments, struggle and compromises along the way.
Working gives one a sense of purpose and fulfilment that staying at home does not.
Everything that you dreamed and imagined about could finally be yours if you decided that it is better to be A BOTH CATEGORY WOMAN of being a HOME MAKER as well as being a WORKING WOMAN
IS IT BETTER TO BE A WORKING MOM FROM A CHILD’S POINT OF VIEW
From a child’s point of view, a home maker mother is the best choice from a psychological point of view.
During their growing up years, if children have their mothers taking care of all their needs, they feel that they will grow up to be happy, healthy and well adjusted developed adults .
DECISION MAKING TIME
The final decision rests on your shoulders only
Please do consult your spouse before making any major decisions
You will definitely need your husband’s support and co-operation to move ahead in life
What is the best role for you? Both or either role of Homemaker or Working Woman
If there is no choice, just enjoy whatever you do and go along with the flow
Better times definitely await you
If you have dreams of a better income, a better house, a better job, more money to nourish your family with, more money to invest in your own growth and potential, a comfortable nest egg for your old age security, please don’t’ feel guilty about it.
Definitely, challenges will have to be met, there will definitely be highs and lows but, Let me tell you that life is not a bed of roses.
However beautiful the rose, it still has thorns
Women have always donned multi tasking roles and have efficiently and capably done justice to whatever roles they have adopted, always giving her best at all times.
A greater level of joy, success and time and money freedom awaits you
Many people will comment that you have made a wrong decision.
But, do not listen to anybody
Nobody comes and lives your life for you
If, you feel that you can handle BOTH THE CAPS OF THE WORKING WOMAN AND THE HOMEMAKER, JUST GO AHEAD AND DO IT.
Working Women today are now the accepted norm in today’s modern society
Given that the situation differs from person to person, different people will have different opinions
We all have to map our own personal circumstances and situations accordingly.
Right now all of us are bang in the middle of COVID 19.
Hence we have to weigh the pros and cons carefully
Think twice before you take a decision to belong to the BOTH CATEGORY Of whether you want to be a HOMEMAKER ALONG WITH BEING A WORKING WOMAN
Maybe, it would be better to wait for the COVID 19 VACCINE to make its long awaited and welcome entry before you decide anything, which could take the next six months, if we are lucky or even more
THINK ABOUT IT BEFORE MAKING ANY DECISIONS WHETHER IT IS BETTER TO BE A HOMEMAKER OR A WORKING WOMAN OR BOTH
BEST OF LUCK
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